strength

I just want to dedicate this post to all of the strong women in my life. I feel like lately all of my girlfriends and sister happen to be going through life-changing experiences and they have all been so incredibly strong that it has been inspiring to see. My sister being the main motivation for this post. She just recently took it upon herself to change her life for the better, even if that meant breaking it off with her boyfriend of two years...someone she lived with and shared a life with. Not only did she do that, but she is incredibly independent and self-sufficient. Neither of us have had easy lives at all, we have had to grow up in such depressing situations that its easy for her (and I) to just fall apart and blame our past, but instead she chose happiness and is dealing with it so well. I cannot be more proud and I am just so happy to have such a strong little sister.

I think its easy for girls to be emotional and clingly. I think girls now days feel like they have to depend on a man or on another person to have sense of validity in the world. I find that all so sad, and  quite frankly, a little pathetic. I know a few girls who are still holding on to relationships that have ended years ago, and while they are still holding on, the other person is happily moving on. I am sure I have said this before but there is nothing more appealing to me than a girl who is strong and independent. Someone who doesnt depend on others for happiness and strength. Someone who has no problem making decisions on their own and taking it upon themselves to do whats right. I feel like too many people in this world live their lives through others. Whether it be adapting other peoples interests, lifestyles etc...its not a secret that everyone is different and I think that it is quite sad when someone is attached at the hip to someone else. The worse way to waste your life is by being a copy of someone else.

I think I have such strong feelings about this because I went through it myself. I used to be the girl who gave up everything for a boyfriend, moved away for them, changed my lifestyle for them and everything in between. I look back at that now and its embarrassing to know that I was once so weak.  I know that made me a stronger person now, but I wish I had a friend that would've taken their time to slap me in the face and tell me that I was doing it all wrong. Luckily and very thankfully I woke up and I now have the most fulfilling life, just because everything I do is under my own terms. No one is telling me what to like, what to do, how to feel, how to live...everything I do and feel and experience is because I am passionate about it and if no one else around me feels the same, I am more than ok experiencing it all alone. Luckily I have a handful of equally independent and unique friends and family that inspire me and motivate me to continue to be myself everyday. I just want to give a shout out to all my strong, unique, independent and sassy ladies. You guys make my world go round.